In recent days, we find men and women who change their mind after getting married more than before. Those people are generally suffering from narcissistic personality disorders and surprisingly, their parents may have greatly influenced them in the past.
In addition to it, some parents may become extremes in treating their own children: one way is like to take care of a prince or a princess and the other is the totally opposite. The siblings of the family’s prince and princess who fail to receive their parents’ extreme attention, affection, or expectation tend to lose their self-esteem, resulting to be victims of Domestic Violence. Or they may end up to get married to those with narcissistic personality disorders and be treated badly like slaves. What a life!
Misora Hibari, one of the greatest singers in Japanese history, was the princess of the family and her mother would take care of her all the time. As a result, she had already lost her relationship with her husband. She was a successful manager, producer, and a mother who put all her love into her daughter’s genius talent at one aspect, but on the other hand, she failed to take care of her other children who missed their mother’s love.
But even women with low self-esteem can become raged enough to commit homicide when compiled hostility bursts out toward her loving husband. It may not be wise just to watch such brutal murder incident on tabloid TV show. Instead, it is necessary to take time to analyze why the incident had to happen more deeply from a social psychological aspect.
In order not to make your children or yourself a criminal and to lead your own narcissism to a positive direction, it is important to understand social psychology. If you don’t hesitate to face the problem, you will not fall into a love with someone who has a tendency to commit domestic violence and have an unsuccessful marriage. Or even if you made a mistake, you need to have courage to turn on your heel or to insist No!
You should have a life in which you feel “All’s well that ends well.” When you look back your life, you should feel happy to have led a fulfilled life with your loving partner no matter how much hardship you had to go through.
I can remember that I had one lady whom it applies to. She made up her mind to get divorced with her husband the other day. She insisted that her husband was totally a different person before and after marriage. He was an athlete, had a macho, sexy body that charmed her. She was happy when she got married to him at the age of 35, the age deemed most appropriate for women to get married. It was just as she had dreamed, she believed.
But in reality, it was not. She found out that her husband was still so relied upon his mother that he could not help but ask her for advice about anything. He was also very self-centered. When something he didn’t like happened, he always got very angry. He would rage against her. During their divorce counseling, he would lie about money and would not stop raging. She had to tape record his violent behaviors. At his work place, he was the most popular teacher in school whom everybody looked upon as a man of sense. Disappointingly, it was impossible to recognize the existence of a father in himself and from his life.